the luxury of pain and grief

Have you noticed that life goes on while you are in pain, grieving, mourning, or any shade of all this. Aldous Huxley said in 1928 that "privacy is a luxury" (in "Point Counterpoint"), true. But so is pain. You HAVE to keep functioning, going to work, paying your bills, etc..
and even those who mean well torture you by stirring your emotions.
Yeap, privacy is a luxury; so is pain..